SAME OLD SAME OLD
10 Jul 2010
I don’t know when it happened. I don’t know if it happens to everyone in committed relationships, but its happened to me.
I was once a very highly functioning individual. Doing everything on my own. Not hugely successful, but alone and happy. Along comes Craig and then it starts. The process of two highly functioning people not being able to function alone. We have gotten into so many routines and habits. Craig does all the phone calls and business loose ends. I take care of the house, yard, and fix it projects. He does all the shopping and everyday cooking. I do the event or weekend cooking. I take care of the vehicles and he takes care of the checkbook. He also makes sure I feed myself when he works late.
This is anything but a complaint. My world may be predictable, but it’s also secure and peaceful.
I consider myself very lucky. Same old same old is nice.
10 Responses
2010 Jul 10
I love this post. It was so fun seeing the two of you together and what a great relationship you have. How you still adore each other after all these years, and, though you tease each other, it is done with such obvious affection that it couldn’t be taken personally. I love how you each spoke of each others’ quirks (which I’ll leave unmentioned
) with affection rather than irritation… Though I will say I’m glad to know Craig is there to make sure there’s food in the house, after seeing how disoriented you got at the deli counter.
If I ever venture into the world of relationships again, I want one like yours.
2010 Jul 10
It sounds like you two have a great system going. I think two is more fun than one (when it’s the right one), even if it does cause some loss of ability to function on your own.
Brandon and I are celebrating eight years together this Sunday. Overall, we’ve been fortunate to come through a lot of difficult times having grown closer through the process.
I love that even though we are living lives completely different than we would have imagined even a year ago, we have moved in this direction together, with both of us enjoying and being excited about the changes that have come.
2010 Jul 10
That’s great you’re so well matched. (I love the notes on the food)
I don’t think I couldn’t survive well without Jen in my life. Yes, we’ve had difficult times, but made it through, and it’s so nice to have her to grow and share together. As for household responsibilities, I am so glad I married such an excellent cook, and that she actually enjoys it! (I have cooked on rare occasion, but usually if she doesn’t feel like it, that means it’s restaurant night). 
I’ve always handled the finances and bringing the money in. I usually do planning for any trips, etc., as well. If we need home repairs, I have to hire them out since I seem to break whatever I touch. These days we usually go grocery shopping together. It has been great for both of us to have a maid now, too, who helps with the cleaning and laundry. It gives us a lot more time to enjoy together and with the kids.
2010 Jul 10
Allison: I loved that you caught my deer in headlights look at the deli counter. Thanks for saving me. We’ve had your turkey havarti sandwiches all week long. Yum! And Happy aniversary to Brandon and Jennifer.
2010 Jul 10
Just so y’all know…I don’t ALWAYS have to leave written instructions when I work late for Paul’s dinner. He survives quite nicely on jerky and canned chili if I don’t prepare. (I do sometimes wonder how he survived before I arrived – but then again, that’s probably why he fit in to those green 27″ waist levis when we met).
I couldn’t have written a script that left me with a better husband. He does indeed finish me (and some of my sentences). I highly reccommend the “married life” thing.
And here’s hoping that the judge in the Prop 8 case will soon render his decision stating that it IS unconstitutional to discriminate against people like Paul and me. Then it can wend it’s way to the Supreme Court and one day finally be resolved. Our choice to love and marry has hurt no one. Gauranteed. And I am bold enough to say that it has perhaps helped some.
Love you honey.
2010 Jul 11
Ok, I totally love this post. You guys are so great for each other. I love that you have such a good system going and that it works so well. Justin and I are still trying to figure out a functioning system after 8 years! lol. (Although kids like to throw all systems out the window…) I’m so happy that you two found each other. I’ve never seen a more perfect and happy couple
2010 Jul 12
I’m right there with you on the Prop 8 case, Craig. And, for with it’s worth, no matter what the judge decides, you’ll always be a married couple in my book.
2010 Jul 13
This post brought tears to my eyes. It makes me happy that you two are so happy. It must be wonderful to find that special person to share your life with, a person you can be yourself with, share the ups and downs and all the in betweens with. I simply cannot see where same sex marriages threaten in any way,shape or form the marriage between a man and a woman, so I do hope with all my heart, that legally your marriage will not be invalidated. You will, of course, always be married in your hearts and to those who love you.
2010 Jul 28
I love the photo of the two of you! My heart is happy that you are settled and happy Paul. As I spent my twenties looking for someone who would complete me the way Craig completes you I practically gave up. Then my thirties came along and I met that person, that soul mate, that man who leaves notes on the food, teaches me to surf, and understands why sometimes all I need is a good book, a diet coke, and a hot bubble bath. I believe everyone should be so fortunate to find that peace and joy with their partner. Miss you and love you both forever.
2010 Jul 28
That is such a great picture of the two of you. And I love the notes on the food in the fridge. I would starve if Craig didn’t fix meals for me. Well, the kids do step in and help when Craig is unavailable, but I certainly do count on him for food and whole lot of other things.
I was thrilled to see that Argentina recently legalized same sex marriages. While that doesn’t directly help us here, I think the more other countries show common sense and a willingness to insure equal rights, the harder it will be for the people in the U.S. who are irrationally fearful, and those who wish to feel superior, to continue to pretend/believe your marriage is some threat to them.